Letting go of limiting beliefs is not about becoming someone else – it’s about removing the layers that hide who You really are!
What are limiting beliefs? – Assumptions and stories that we create about ourselves that are not true.
They are created in our ego. They come from the place of fear and they want to keep us safe and in our “default” zone. When we are trying to make a change, trying to move beyond our comfort zones and do new things, change habits and patterns, that’s when those little voices get really louder in our head and hold us back to make that progress and reach our goals.
Where do they come from?
A lot of times these limiting beliefs were created in our childhood from the life experiences, traumas… They may have served us well as children or young adults and helped us feel protected and safe, but now as adults they are not serving us well. As an adults we can choose – Do I want to believe that belief or is there another truth of who I am?
How to recognize them?
Observe statements you make, such as: “I am just not a healthy person,” “I failed so many times. I don’t think I can make this change,” “I just don’t have willpower to do this,” “I should try harder,” or “I can’t do this. I will never be able to stick to this.”
Observe the phrases you repeat such as; “I should… I can’t… I am not… I have to… I don’t have time. I need to do X before I start Y.”
If you hear this kind of language , you know you are dealing with limiting beliefs.
How to be the coach of your own life and break through the limiting beliefs
Here are 10 steps and questions you can ask yourself in order to bring more awareness and break through those limiting beliefs that are holding you back:
1. IDENTIFY THE LIMITING BELIEF
Q: Tell me what voice is coming to you and repeating over and over? (For example: “I should.. I don’t have time… I need to do X before I start Y.”)
2. HOW TRUE IS THIS FOR YOU
Q: To what degree on a scale from 1 to 10 would you say that your belief has been true for you until now? How strongly do you feel it?
3. FINDING THE PROOF
Q: Can you find any proof at all that this belief isn’t actually true about you? Can you think of moments when this belief didn’t apply to you?
4. IMPACT FOR HOLDING ONTO BELEIF
Q: What are the consequences, or what is the impact for holding onto that belief?
5. BENEFIT FROM HOLDING ONTO THAT BELIEF
Q: How do you benefit from holding onto that belief and staying “stuck”?
6. LETTING GO OF THE BELEIF
Q: If you do let go of that belief, what is possible? Who would you be if you would let go of that belief?
7. FINDING OUT IF THE BELIEF IS TRUE OR NOT TRUE
Q: After reflecting on all the previous questions and answers, can you agree that the belief is not true for you?
8. REFRAMING THE BELIEF
Q: Are you ready to let go of that belief and find a new one that serves you better?
9. NEW BELIEF
Q: What is the new belief? (For example: “I am ready,” “I am worthy,” “I am healthy,” or “I am becoming healthier each day.”)
10. ACTION PLAN
Q: What are the next steps now that you have these new insights? What is the first step you will take to move toward the new version of yourself?
Letting go of limiting beliefs is a journey, not a one-time shift. But every time you question the old stories and choose a new, empowering belief, you reclaim a little more of your true self. Awareness is the first step. From here, it’s about practice, patience, and self-compassion. Come back to these questions any time you feel stuck. The more often you challenge your limiting beliefs, the easier it becomes to create new, empowering ones.
✨ So what’s one small action you can take today to honor the version of yourself you’re stepping into?
I’d love to hear from you. Feel free to share your reflections or new belief in the comments.
Want to go deeper in transforming your habits and mindset? Read my next post Why Starting a New Habit Feels So Hard.
If you want to dive deeper into understanding and transforming limiting beliefs, I highly recommend the book Taming Your Gremlin by Rick Carson. It’s one of those books that helps you see exactly how you’re holding yourself back and how to move beyond those self-imposed limits.
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Light & Love,
Romy
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