Rebuilding yourself by taking control over your life is not about making huge changes all the once. It is about taking control over small habits that shape your daily life. Habits that slows you back, drain your energy or stopping you from reaching your full potential.
Let’s see how to remove and change them to move you towards living more fulfilled life.
Remember, it is is not about perfection, rather about progress. IT WILL BE HARD AT FIRST, YOUR MIND WILL RESIST, YOUR BODY WILL PROTEST BUT THAT RESISTANCE IS THE ART OF TRANSFORMATION. WHEN YOU OVERCOME IT, YOU BEGIN TO BUILD TRUST IN YOURSELF, YOU BEGIN TO SHOW UP EVEN WHEN IT IS UNCOMFORTABLE AND THAT IS WHERE THE CONFIDENCE IS BUILT. NOT IN THE EASY MOMENTS BUT IN THE ONES THAT REQUIRE EFFORT, DISCIPLINE AND COMMITMENT.
Lets dive into powerful five steps to take control over your life:
- ELIMINATE ONE DISTRACTION THAT WEAKNESS YOUR DAILY FOCUS
Every day begins with a choice, you either claim control over attention or you let something else take it from you. Most of us wake up and first thing we do we reach for the phones, we scroll, consume and repeat. And then we wonder where the time went. Can you relate? 🙂 Where the focus goes, energy follows! Maybe it is your phone, maybe other people or the voice in your head that lets you put things off to later. The longer you allow it the more it become a habit, a pattern, a life style that puts you away from the person you want to be.
To take control over your life, you don’t need to be busy, you need to be focused. Busy is chaotic, focus is intentional.
Ask yourself what is that one distraction that you need to eliminate. The first day it may be uncomfortable and you may feel the pull, the urge to go back to it, but if you can hold it for the first few days, you will see something will shift. Most people don’t take control over their focus, they give it away all day long and then they feel lost. If your distraction is your phone set time limits or delete apps that consume you, if it is negative people reduce your exposure and protect your peace. If it is perfectionism, learn to act before you feel ready. If it is self doubt take one step forward anyway. Once you decide that your focus matters more than distraction you begin the process of rebuilding yourself. The moment you remove one major distraction your whole life starts to move differently.
2. WAKE UP EARLIER AND TAKE CONTROL OF YOUR DAY
When you wake up early you take ownership of your time. This does not mean you have to wake up at 5am, but maybe you can wake up one hour earlier than usual. I love to sleep and sometimes I would get stuck in a routine of waking up at 11 am or later. If I put my alarm and wake up earlier I always find myself having more energy and accomplishing more things that day. Waking up early is all about giving yourself time to start the day being grounded in your purpose, to reflect and not to live on the autopilot all your life. Many of us snooze the alarm until the last possible moment and then rush where there is no time to think, no space to breathe, no control over what happens next. That is not a routine, it is a survival. And when you live like that long enough life begins to feel like life is just happening to you. You loose your sense of direction. When you decide to rise early you are sending message to yourself “I am in charge if my life, I don’t longer wait to be motivated. I am setting the tone, I am setting the pace, setting the standard.”
Waking up early does not mean you start doing more, it simple means doing right things first, prioritize what matters before distraction take over. You will be surprised how quickly you energy beings to change once you start waking up with purpose, you will feel more grounded, more in control, more present. To start implementing this habit, start with 30 days, set up alarm to wake up at least one hour before you would usually do.
3. CUT OUT EXCUSES AND TAKE FULL RESPONSIBILITY
Every excuse you make delays the life you want to live. It does not matter how convincing it sounds in your head neither how many other people agree with it. Every time you make an excuse you are giving your power away. You are choosing to remain stuck. When you take full responsibility for who and where you are, you unlock the ability to change it. You may say you don’t have time, but the truth is you have time for what you prioritize. Think about every goal you have set but never followed. Let’s admit, no one stopped you but YOU. You have to stop waiting for the perfect plan, to feel more motivated, inspired. You don’t need more information, you don’t need more time. You need more action. You need to take responsibility for your choices, your schedule, your habits. And yes, some things in your life will be outside of you control, but not your response. Your response is where power live.
What separates ‘winners’ from the rest is not luck, talent, background just responsibility. Cutting out excuses requires self awareness. Start noticing stories you tell yourself – “I can’t because I am too tired or I failed because someone else got lucky, or I will start when things calm down…”. You have to challenge them, dismantle them and replace them with the new narrative that sounds like “I can figure that out, I can take the first step, I can build the life that I want.” The next time you catch yourself making excuse, pause, ask yourself “Is this true or is this just comfortable?”, “Is this helping me grow or is this keeping me small?”. This moment of awareness is the beginning of change. Taking responsibility does not mean you have to fix everything overnight, it means you start with one area of your life weather is your health, your work ethic…You pick one and you commit!
4. TRACK YOUR TIME
Do you take control over your time? Are you investing your time in things that truly matter or are you simply filling your days with tasks? The only way to track that with certainty is to track your time. First step to track time is AWARENESS. Most of us live our lives on the autopilot, responding to external demands without much thought about how we are spending our precious time. Once you start to track your activities, you start to notice patterns and realize that you are spending far more time on social media than you’ve ever intended. For example, today I realized (once it was too late) that I spent 1 hour on my phone, after waking up, scrolling on social media. If you realize that you are not allocating enough time to high value activities you can adjust your schedule to reflect your prioritize. To be brutally HONEST with yourself, acknowledge it for what it is. The key is not to judge yourself, but to understand the truth on how you spend your time. Only once you are aware of this habits, you can begin to change them.
5. SAYING “NO” TO THINGS THAT DO NOT GROW YOU
This one is still hard for me, but I am really working on it. Saying NO is the most powerful decision we can make. It is decision to take control of your time, energy and focus. Too often we find ourselves caught up in situation, relationships and obligations that don’t serve us, that don’t challenge us to become better. Instead they drain our energy, distract us from our true purpose and keep us stuck in mediocrity. Every time you say YES to things that don’t align with your authentic Self, you are depleting your energy. Learning to say No is about setting boundaries and protecting your own energy. It is easy to say YES out of guilt, fear of missing out or the desire to please others, but true growth comes from being intentional with where you direct your energy. Ask yourself questions “Does this move me closer to my goals, does this align with my values, will this challenge me to grow? If the answer is NO, then it is time to say NO. Saying NO it is about self-respect and protecting your energy. It is an act of self-love, not of self-centeredness. One of the biggest aspect of saying NO is a fear of disappointing others, to avoid conflict and to be liked. It is important to be honest with yourself where your energy is going. One of the most powerful ways to say NO is by getting comfortable with discomfort. By saying NO we fear that people will see us uncooperative or rude. The reality is that those fears are often exaggarated. Most people will understand if you respectfully decline their request and if they don’t it says more about them than it does about you. You have the power to decide what is the best for you!
If you’re working on setting boundaries and protecting your energy, Reiki can be a powerful support. Read more about it here.
Taking control of your life is a journey, not a destination. It’s about consistently making small, intentional choices that move you toward the person you want to be. Remember, progress comes through discomfort — it’s in those moments that you build resilience, trust in yourself, and the confidence to keep showing up. Start with just one step today, and let each decision take you closer to a more focused, fulfilled, and empowered life.
You’ve got this!
Love&Light,
Romy
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