Have you ever walked away from a conversation feeling exhausted, not because of what the other person did, but because of what you didn’t do? You didn’t say what you meant. You didn’t acknowledge what you felt. You didn’t honor the discomfort in your body. Instead, you adapted, explained, reassured, minimized, and carried on as…
emotional regulation
How to stop over-functioning in relationships
Have you ever noticed that even when you are exhausted, overwhelmed, frustrated, or resentful… you still continue doing more? You still continue explaining something you were already very clear about, you still remind, or anticipate, you still carry… Until one day you realize you are compensating for someone else’s lack of functioning. You are doing…
Why You Constantly Over-Explain Yourself (And How to Stop)
Your friend invited you somewhere and you are just not in the mood for socializing, or you have something else to do, or maybe you simply don’t want to. But instead of saying “that day doesn’t work for me” you start with the long explanation why and how… And if you don’t, you think you…
The Difference Between Empathy and Emotional Responsibility
This is something I have struggled for quite some time – being empathetic but not taking emotional responsibility at the same time. You may ask yourself “But where is the line?”. This is something we’ll explore more deeply in this post. You may also ask yourself “If I show empathy but don’t try to fix…
Why You Feel Responsible for Other People’s Emotions (And How to Stop)
Have you ever found yourself adjusting your tone, your words, or your behavior just to keep someone else comfortable? Maybe you try to smooth tension, avoid conflict, or make sure everyone feels okay – even when it comes at the cost of yourself. I know I’ve found myself in this pattern many times. Probably you’ve…
How to never feel drained around certain people
I am sure you have found yourself in the situations and interactions with others that have left you feeling drained. Whether it was dealing with someone anxious, overly negative, talking non-stop… As an introvert, this was happening to me very often, but also avoiding people was not the solution. 🙂 Let’s look at why this…
